Wars arise from a failure to understand one another's humanness. Instead of summit meetings, why not have families meet for a picnic and get to know each other while the children play together?I would love to see George Bush in a park with Kim Jong Il, Ayatollah Ali Khamenei, Pervez Musharraf, Hu Jintao, Nancy Pelosi, etc, etc at some picnic.
His Holiness the Dalai Lama
Tuesday, October 30
Monday, October 29
- why people say a pet is a good prep for a kid
- why parents are tired all the time.
We got Johnders and I found myself constantly worrying about "raising" him right, keeping him healthy, happy and safe. I want my dog that is a good citizen and happy. That's the prep part. The tired is related to that. I was worrying so much that I found myself exhausted. It took me a couple more days to make the connection but I did. The emotional roller coaster is tiring.
Sunday, October 28
If my mother had done this, if my father had been this, if my boss didn't do this.I so wish some of these people would get the clue that they have something to do with it. Especially when they find themselves in similar situations time and time again.
Happiness and suffering come from your own mind, not from outside. Your own mind is the cause of happiness; your own mind is the cause of suffering. To obtain happiness and pacify suffering, you have to work within your own mind.Lama Zopa Rinpoche, "The Door To Satisfaction"
Friday, October 26
In August we went to a BBQ at a friend's house and we were greeted by this black & white splotched puppy. It was a very cute, happy, friendly puppy but I didn't think much about him. Then, from across the room, my very unimpulsive, cat-loving wife said "can we keep him?". I was stunned. One, because I would we hadn't planned for it. Two, Tara doesn't say things like that. Three, Tara didn't want a dog. We talked about it when we got home and Kathy, the "owner of the dog" said we could do it on a trial basis. Her family was going out of town and we could keep "Freckles" and see.
The story was that Brian, the husband, found the dog at a hotel while he was on a business trip. According to the staff, the dog had been at the hotel for a few days. Brian knew he couldn't leave the dog so he didn't. He figured he could find a home if his family didn't want to keep him. Sounds like a great plan, right? They already had one dog, a couple of cats, a 4-year old boy and another boy on the way. Well, this dog proved to be a little more rambunctious and a little stronger than Carter, the 4-year old liked.
Before we brought him home Tara started planning. She brought our handyman over to complete the backyard fence - I hate it but it works and that's a different story - she started looking into puppy classes and other things so I knew this was not a temporary thing. We brought him home and he was a blast. We kept him in the bathroom the first couple of days and then found a crate. We had to push him in it in for the longest but now, we have a calm down routine and he just has to be nudged.
After a week or so one of our friends, Niki, came up with a new name...Johnders Sanson. My name is Sanders and Tara is Johnson, hopefully you can figure it out. Next for Johnders was training...
Better to conquer yourselfDhammapada, 8, translated by Thanissaro Bhikkhu.
When you've trained yourself,
living in constant self-control,
neither a deva nor gandhabba,
nor a Mara banded with Brahmas,
could turn that triumph
back into defeat.
Monday, October 22
Saturday, October 20
Monday, October 15
Blog Action Day
Sunday, October 14
Yeah, there are plenty of those too.
Friday, October 12
There are many very attractive, sometimes flirty, young women who interact with me throughout my work day. I'm not talking disgusting, Lolita-type young, I'm talking way too young for me, which is college-aged & mid-20s. Some are sweet, some are cute, some are sexy and some are a combo of several. Now, there are plenty of women my age and older who fit this desciption but I guess b/c I just dealt with a young one I am thinking about it. She was very sweet and she walked away but turned around and smiled at me (unsolicited, or at least I think so).
Anyway, thank God for women. If I had only been more knowledgable in the ways of women when I was younger. Who knows if that would have changed anything. I love my wife more deeply and fully than anyone I've known, other than my mother. I think she is all the things I listed above and more but sometimes I wonder how things would've been different if I had pursued the women I've had crushes on or just the cute ones I've met through the years.
Monday, October 1
Whatever attitudes we habitually use toward ourselves, we will use on others, and whatever attitudes we habitually use toward others, we will use on ourselves. The situation is comparable to our serving food to ourselves and to other people from the same bowl. Everyone ends up eating the same thing--we must examine carefully what we are dishing out.Bhante Henepola Gunaratana, "Eight Mindful Steps to Happiness"