Monday, February 12

22 Steps To Higher Self-Esteem

As I have gotten older I have gained more self-esteem. I have learned that my opinion is valuable, I have learned that I am valuable. Sometimes I still have trouble volunteering myself, my info, opinion or knowledge but I don't have to be prodded nearly as much as when I was a kid. I have family and friends who are not as far along this path as I am so hopefully they can get something out of this post.
Self-esteem is how you feel about yourself, how confident you are, how accomplished you feel. It reflects whether a person loves, accepts, and believes in who they are. For some of us, however, it can go up and down. One day you might feel really on top of everything, great about yourself, unafraid to try anything. And the next day, you’re just as likely to feel completely at the bottom, unsure of yourself, afraid to say or do anything.

Building high self-esteem is a process, not something you can develop overnight. And this isn’t necessarily easy. Yet, every single person has the capacity of high self-esteem.
1. Stop comparing yourself with other people.
2. Stop the critic inside of you.
3. Forgive and forget.
Do not waste your time and energy thinking of past hurts.
4. Associate with positive, supportive people.
5. Get involved in work and activities you love.
6. Be true to yourself.
Live your own life - not the life someone decided is best for you. You will never gain your own respect and you will never feel good about yourself if you aren’t leading the life you want to lead. So if you’re still making decisions based on getting approval from friends and relatives, you aren’t being true to yourself and your self-esteem is lowered.
7. Talk affirmatively to others and yourself.
8. Quit blaming yourself for mistakes in the past.
Learn to honor your efforts and give proper credit for things that you have done well.
9. Make a long list of your personal breakthroughs.
Think of times when you did something that you thought that never could do but managed to pull off successfully. These breakthroughs can generate an authentic source of never-ending pride in you. Read this list often. While reviewing it, close your eyes and recreate the feelings of satisfaction and joy you experienced when you first attained each success.
10. Make a list of your positive qualities.
11. Figure out the hidden strengths in your so-called weaknesses.
Remember that there is always a positive in every negative if you look hard enough. For instance, you may think of yourself as stubborn, but the flipside is that you’re also persistent and dependable.
12. Rediscover and reaffirm your personal strengths.
13. Ignore yourself.
Sometimes the real problem isn’t self-esteem at all but a tendency toward overthinking. When you get this feeling direct your focus to other things. Give it a rest already!
14. Examine your needs.
15. Accept all compliments with “Thank You.”
16. Start giving more.
You must give more of yourself to those around you. Because when you do things for someone else, you are making a positive contribution and you begin to feel more valuable, which in turn lifts your spirits and raises your own self-esteem.
17. Be your own cheerleader.
18. Start small and do a task you can accomplish easily.
19. Examine the pattern of highs and lows.
It’s always good to remember that self-esteem is a mental construct. So examine your patterns and you’ll know what to do.
20. Get some exercise.
Exercise can decrease ‘stress hormones’ like cortisol, and increase endorphins, your body’s ‘feel-good’ chemicals, giving your mood a natural boost. Also physical activity itself can take your mind off of your problems and either redirect it on the activity at hand or get you into a zen-like state.
21. Take advantage of workshops, books and cassette tape programs on self-esteem.
22. Take action!
The universe rewards action! When you take action - regardless of the ensuing result - you feel better about yourself.

Most importantly, high self esteem will bring you peace of mind - and next time you’re all alone, you’ll truly appreciate the person you’re with - YOURSELF.
Thanks to the Riran Project for the article
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